How my spiritual foundation gave promise to my mothers passing

How my spiritual foundation gave promise to my mothers passing

Original published: December 8th, 2019

Hello Everyone,

I am slowly but moving my gears on contextualizing facts, myths, dreams, and more. So much in my life has happened since she has transitioned to not being here. I will have a book suggestion for all my entrepreneurs that follow this but it will be at the end! :)

So if I could say before we get into the article:

As I was going through this experience, I was able to journal everyday the way I was feeling up or down.

Journal

Anyone that is dealing with this now should try to use a journal as a great way to look at your feelings. It took me sometime of sitting and not doing this in order for me to actually be still and be able to journal during that time. All of the emotions are going out all over the place. When I wrote down my thoughts, It gave me space to think about each letter of each word I wanted to work out in my mind.

I have been a spiritual being for a long time and way before I was conceived. Some of the things I did were directed by my faith but in this article you can choose what best works for you.

I wanted to share that before I go in to the article.

Life after death(of someone special in your life)

I can express empathy to all people who have lost someone special in their life. It starts with waking up everyday with new eyes and a bright perspective on the world. I can only say that because of my mother. The only way I could say that is because she gave me that outlook on the world!

In this article I just wanted to share some small things I thought about during this period of time for me. As I continue to grieve! It is a everyday process and will work itself out naturally.

I want you to understand there is no better feeling then just sitting with it. That it is grief!

There are no quick ways to get over death

Some of my friends that I have spoke to over the course of the last couple of months asked me how am I so balanced after something like this happens. I can only say that the foundation that my mom built within us still, and always will stand on the shoulders of God.

I can say that having something to believe in helped me greatly! It is partly the reason why every 5 seconds I don't crumble. I feel that when someone special like that moves on to do greater things they should be celebrated! So death should be apart of a celebration of transcendence!! Understanding death in that way took me time but after seeking through my heart. All I could find is her love! So we start off by:

*Grieve

I believe there is power in sitting still! That is all apart of grieving and is fine.

Sometimes we build up a tear bank

(a repository of tears not sh

ed!)

Pretty sure people will ask about the "tear bank." Over the course of our life we generate closer and closer synaptic connections of our reality. This means it's harder to pull a human off of something they are used too. If you have a mechanism for not shedding tears, and this is possible! Then that can work against you! You can wonder to yourself.

Am I supposed to be crying?

How am I supposed to feel?

All of these things get in the natural FLOW of nature. Every chance I get to cry! I cry!

I feel that second of a connection between a thought and my reality was meant for me to have at that time. What happens if you try to prevent it?

You create a dam and those tears you should be shedding fill until you explode!

As I grieved so many questions flow through your mind of what ifs/why now/wait, and these are questions you are supposed to feel during this time. I found that the questions I was asking myself were based off the same voice that I closed out years ago. As I heard that voice I immediately changed those thoughts. The only reason why I did this was because I felt like I heard the voice before. That voice that was connected to those qu

estions, I knew wasn't about me grieving. It was coming from a place of fear! That voice was tricky but I believe I was able to spot the voice because I made an intention on finding it years ago.

This isn't a coincidence or is it?

I understand that there are so many ways to deal with grief of a loved one, but I will be honest. I am just telling you how I felt and what I was able to consciously experience during this time. If you find something useful. Please use it! If not, take something and add it to your framework.

Life can be a puzzle that is thrown all over the floor but the trick is you don't have any eyes!

All levels of my life things get harder & that is the same for everyone.

I believe music and my list of contemporary artists helped and continue to help! I have a few if you want names!

*Music

Ludovico Einaudi

Bach

Beethoven

There is a lot of power behind music and I believe because my mom was a Reverend for so long. Music became a place I could stay a while. We grew up with happy gospel music playing in the house when we were younger. I took the initiative on keeping music that reminds me of family, and our moments. I believe that it helped me greatly because I have always loved music and built it in a framework of mine a long time ago. I truly needed to lean on this and the above other two.

What is the most beautiful song in the world to you? Can you keep it on repeat?

As we grow in size of economy, and a nation we must have great local support groups. When someone is transitioning over. I found it very important for me to speak to family, and friends.

*Friends/Family(support)

Support is paramount! The more love you have in these groups the better! They are built around love, compassion, and empathy. I understand in every society it changes and varies but with my experience. My family and friends have been paramount when it comes to support and understanding. That is something you can't measure....

Our family has received great support from friends and family! I feel that this was a huge help!

In conclusion to the above Grieve, Support, Music, & Journal. These were apart of a system in which was created naturally in my mind.

I previously went to these and not others because I was comfortable with doing that. There was a lot more that I did than the above but I will save that for another article.

There is no "Best" way to "feel" anything. Especially with this level of connection.

It is all about naturally going through "Your" journey. I pray for all those who have to deal with the same or have been troubled with worse.

I speak about this because I am an Entrepreneur and I know my fellow comrades would understand trying to hold still in the face of adversity!

So be weak! yet strong! Hard! yet flexible!

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